Change – A word from Dr Margaret Anderson
Only one person can change your life and that is you. Do not wait for anyone else to do it for you, Prince Charming or otherwise. Be your own Prince!
It is easier to change yourself than trying to change others. Make changes to create a healthier, better you. Changes on the outside reflect the person on the inside. Make choices to do things differently.
Live for today. You cannot change the past and your own future will be decided by how you live today.
Accept that sometimes you just cannot “fix it.” You just have to let somethings go and experience the changes that occur.
Remember – what we conquer – makes us stronger in character.
It is never too late to stop and change the way you are going. Never!
Learn to say “NO”. Practice: say it at least once everyday and you will become better at saying “NO”.
Change is always present in life. There may be changes in our lives that are not under our control. For example, a loved one’s death, poor health or marital/relationship difficulties.
Adapting to different circumstances takes strength, time and encouragement from family and friends and in some cases, counselling is required. Do not be afraid or embarrassed to seek help if need be.
Changes will occur when moving to a new house or moving to another state or country. There can be mixed emotions, homesickness or longing for old friends and family, and all that was familiar.
What is needed for change?
- Determination, persistence and patience. It takes time to climb a mountain, one step at a time, and one day at a time. Do not expect change to occur instantly.
- Make a new start. Let go of “old garbage” (ie – garbage that we drag around emotionally). Let go of resentments and feelings of hate and forgive yourself and others for the wrong decision that you or they may have made. It is now all in the past. “Letting go” can change the future.
- Take responsibility to stop bad habits and behaviours that you know and unhealthy for your body and for your mind.
Desire and real goals are important – have targets to reach for and achieve to become the “new you”.
- Surround yourself with positive people who provide motivation, encouragement and support.
- Avoid people and situations whereby you may be tempted to revert to old habits.