Addiction is a condition that is characterised by compulsive engagement in rewarding stimuli, despite adverse consequences.
There are addictions to alcohol, drugs, (such as nicotine or cocaine), soft drinks, sugar and caffeine etc and there are addictions to activities, such as gambling, shopping, playing computer games and watching TV. Addictions interfere with ordinary life responsibilities.
The development of addictions may be seen in people who have experienced:
- Emotional and social deprivations as a child, especially those who experienced little maternal love.
- Insecurity from family disruptions in early/late childhood, or from a background of child abuse or domestic violence.
- Inhibited, passive or dominated personalities.
- Feelings of tension, social inadequacy, those with low self-esteem
- Difficulties in sexual adjustment and experiencing the fear of intimacy.
- Relationship issues, from the inability to form normal human attachments.
- Being raised in a home driven by paternal conflict or antagonism, leading to feelings of rejection, anxiety and emotional dependence. (These personalities often have repressed traits of dependency, inferiority and passivity).
- Rebelliousness – impulsive and egotistical tendencies, with the desire to revolt against the rules of society, or of healthy living.
Addictions can become a generational disorder: for example – from mum to daughter, father to son, by the modelling behaviour that is portrayed and copied from one generation to another.
There must be an honest acknowledgement that there really is a problem. Change is possible with the right treatment and support and by making the necessary changes that will address the addiction’s root cause.
- There needs to be a strong committed honest desire to change.
- Be prepared to alter your thought patterns, which need to be aligned with health and happiness, not with negativity, destruction and despair.
- Take responsibility to make the changes yourself.
- Be accountable for behaviour patterns and responses.
- Decide to avoid the temptations, ie: do not allow junk food in the home.(Denial of access is the number one proven measure).
- Be free from compulsions.
- Find a new way to live and to behave.
- Let go of the unsupportive, negative friends who do not take you seriously or value you.
- Do not keep company with those acquaintances who share the same addictive type behaviours as yourself.
- Become self-determined about the happiness and the kind of life that you desire and deserve.
- Embrace giving and thinking of others, rather than self.